This week has been a little weird. Not bad weird, just weird. I’m a very goal-oriented person and since November I’ve been looking towards Boomba’s July 24th due-date as though it was the day my life was going to change forever—the day that we would get to meet a new little person that we created. There were like 100 stars on the calendar date.
I know it’s silly to think this way. After all, how often do babies come on their due dates anyways, right? Like 5% of the time? And not only that, but we are so blessed to have made it to this point in our pregnancy with a healthy baby at all–and I know that. But still, when July 24th came and went with no contractions, no water breaking, no bloody show, no nothin’–it felt a little anti-climactic.
Jason and I have spent the last few days doing all the stuff the doctor suggested of us—we’ve been going on walks, eating spicy foods, and other (he-hem) sexier stuff that is supposed to encourage her to head on down–but alas so far she is taking her time. Friends and strangers give us fun/ny and sometimes outlandish suggestions like ‘rub the soles of your feet…’ ‘eat this special kind of salad dressing…’ ‘do squats…’ (that last one is not happening btw…) but so far, despite our efforts, Boomba is chillin’.
This is a very good lesson for me for parenthood I suppose. I am so used to my schedules and my regimens and meeting deadlines and crossing things off of my do-to list. From what I gather, parenthood doesn’t always work that way. I will have to meld my life to her schedule–wait for her to be good and ready to do whatever it is that she needs to do. I need to trust her and guide her without imposing my angst, schedules or habits onto her. So we wait. And I try and wait with less anxiety and more trust, with less fear and more surrender.
I wish you all a happy Friday and a relaxing weekend, free of deadlines or too many stars on the calendar…
xx
~J
Jo says
Oh, wow, I really hope it all starts to happen soon for you! Such wise words though… I never thought of it that way. Good thoughts being sent your way :)
Moon to Moon says
So excited for you…. just relax and enjoy the extra time being pregnant
big love, xxx
Elizabeth Rogers Drouillard says
Aw, you are so right – they change it all. But it’s a delight. Tiring, but delightful. :)
Try to relax and pretend she’s not coming. ;) She’s almost sure to, then. xo
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Ricochet Waves says
love the photo! your words are so poetic and even a kind reminder to all of us not waiting on such an exciting event(in our own lives)! So excited for you though. much love to you and your family!
Amy says
Hi Justina,
Best wishes to you for a safe and quick labour!
My big lesson from a 35-hour labour and delivery was that I was the conduit for my child to be born into the world. What my expectations, wishes, plans or desires may have been prior to that were of little importance. What my child needed for her entry was paramount. It took me several months to come to this.
Erin Cooper says
You’re doing so awesome and I know the wait is hard, but it will be worth it. I had contractions for about a week before it materialized into anything. :) My midwives said sometimes the moon gets things moving and we have one coming up on the 1st of August. I’ve got my fingers & toes crossed for a fantastic birth for all of you. :)
To pass the time you can read my birth story all about the time I was in labor and my husband yelled “MONKEY BRAIN” at me. http://pippinandpearl.com/2012/01/home-birth-part-2-how-it-all-went-down/
cocooner wife says
Hang in there. What a great attitude you have. I’m due Aug 1st but my Dr. wanted to induce me earlier b/c I’m high-risk. Alas, my body just wasn’t/isn’t ready. Baby looks great so that is all that matters. I’m just so ready. I know that’s what you are feeling. You are just anxious to meet your baby girl. I know she will be a beautiful joy for you and your family. Well wishes!!
paper and type says
this bebe is going to be / is already so lucky to have you & jason as her parents. this little lady has no idea what love awaits her!
also, she’s going to be really good at playing hide & seek.
xo
~EssenseVibez~ says
Huney, look at it this way–God is still talking with her–and when He’s finished, He will send her to you–bless your heart–I’m so excited I can’t wait!!!–enjoy this moment–love you Huney!
Will @ Bright.Bazaar says
I loved reading this. Isn’t it funny how life shapes us and we learn everyday. I bet you’ll look back on this when you’re an experienced mum and think: I remember that day nothing happened on the due date and what I learned from it. Sending the warmest wishes from across the pond to you, Jason and little Boomba!
niki d. says
beautiful belly! and yes, i know the feeling. my son, too, was late. my doctor had actually scheduled to induce me, but alas, my son decided to make an appearance just before i was scheduled to go in. he was born on labor day. get it, i was in labor on labor day. haha… he proved his sense of humor then and continues to entertain us! :) best wishes to you!
Susan says
My twin pregnancy certainly taught me a major lesson on control + patience. I am a planner, and having my body and life feel so out of control was tough, so I totally relate. Thinking baby thoughts for you!! xo
OLD BRAND NEW says
Cracking up over here. C’mon on out, Boomba! We wanna see yooooooouuuu!
Titti @ Shoestring Pavilion says
That’s a hilarious picture! That’s exactly how you feel at the end, just one big belly. I found that the longer the wait for the baby the lesser the fear of the birth became, you get more ready to “make it happen” the longer it goes. Happy birthing whenever she decides to show up :)
Lindsay says
I am excited for you! The best advice given me was to find out how long past the due date were you born, and how long past the due date was your husband born. My baby came 7 days past her due date and the was the average of those two numbers. And all was well. Namaste!
816 says
All the best. I’ve heard something about eating eggplant. I’m 7 1/2 months so I envy that you’re so close to meeting your daughter because, as I am sure you know, the late pregnancy discomforts have begun. My first was born on her due date and I just hope and pray this one comes on time. Cannot wait to see your lil lady.
Love
816
familyobeans says
Ha! In about three weeks this wait won’t even be a blip on your radar. Girl, go get a pedicure! Smootch yo man! Live it up, my friend. When Lil Boomabalicious makes her appearance, it will be magnifique! Tres perfect! A bit uncomfortable! So relax. There’s only one place for her to go…and that’s OUT!
Tasha says
Been there! when she is ready she will come, these last days are the hardest! Hope it won’t be much longer. I was an entire week late.
Unknown says
aw so sweet. it is going to happen so soon! xx
Ana Maria says
worth the wait and yes, a very good lesson for the patience and surprises to come. so excited for you both!