Today’s post is part of the Jump Blog Tour. The tour is hosted by Stephanie Hall and Ashley Wilhite of ‘Jump: Into your business, your life, your dream’, a digital guide for new coaches & creatives. Find out more here.
When Stephanie and Ashley first invited me to be a part of this blog tour and to write about work/life balance I chuckled to myself a little bit. Me? Talk about work/life balance? But my life is SO FAR from balanced. Then I began to brainstorm a bit…Well, I can talk about the importance of delegation and hiring out parts of the job that I don’t totally love…or I can talk about learning to ask for help..or I can talk about making time for myself in the wee hours of the night or the crack of dawn…BUT, to be TRULY authentic, I then reasoned with myself, I should just be real about how UNbalanced my life actually is–especially since I became a mama. So that’s what this post is really about…In my life, work and life are like rivers flowing into bubbling oceans and back into rivers and evaporating into skies and then raining back into rivers–overlapping and dripping, crashing and melting. As a creative business owner, as a blogger, as a work-from-homer, as a mama and a wife, I’m afraid that work and life are not binary. Work is my life. My living room is my office. My husband is my editor, my daughter is my boss. It’s a mess, really.
I feel guilty a lot. I feel guilty when I’m working a lot that I’m not spending enough time with Ida, and that I’m missing time with her that I will never ever be able to get back. I even feel guilty some mornings for taking time to work out. I also feel guilty when I don’t take time to work out. Days I spend with Ida I feel guilty that I’m not earning. I feel guilty when weeks go by and I haven’t had the time to respond to people’s phone calls, or emails, or texts, or tweets, or instagram comments or blog comments. I feel guilty when I don’t have time to call my girlfriends or my grandparents. The truth is, no matter what I’m doing, I always feel like I’m missing something–and the truth is, I always am.
And I suppose therein lies the heart of this blog post…
Finding the work/life balance for me is about making peace with the fact that my life is not balanced at all. Sure I can have schedules and color-coded calendars and alarms on my phone to remind me of this and that and designated times where I turn off my phone. But there will always be days where I won’t get to my emails and I will make no money. There will always be days where I dizzily toggle all day between having a toddler and a laptop on my lap. There will always be days that I get to spend just hanging with Ida and Jason. There will always be days where I hunker down at a cafe and work for 8 straight hours wired on almond-milk lattes. The balance comes with a peaceful heart and with a calm, focused mind. The balance comes when I can get work in when I’m feeling inspired, get play in when I’m feeling frisky, and get sleep in when I’m feeling tired. Work/life balance for me is about being in the moment, it’s about focusing on the big picture and the long run–and perhaps keeping a little blow-up raft in the back pocket so that I can ride with the flow of the rivers into the bubbling oceans and back again….
How about you? How do you manage your time and balance ‘work’ and ‘life’?